Jeanie isn't adjusting very well to retirement. She was taking naps everyday for a long time. Says she has too much time on her hands to think about her life. She needs some hobby. She used to craft and read . Now I think she isn't even reading like she used too. This is the sister that I write to about 3-5 times a week. She has even stopped writing as often. She should do some volunteer work or get a mini job.
Maybe we will take a little walk . Maybe sit under the shade trees and talk. Hope all of you enjoy today. XO
I know how it is when you retire. At first it is fun and then it becomes boring. Have fun visiting with your sister. I hope her outlook gets brighter.
ReplyDeleteBeth, I know it takes a bit of time to adjust. She will be okay when she sees the light...like truly starts being grateful for small blessings. I tell her we are able to walk a bit, maybe not miles , but a few blocks, we have enough to eat, maybe not prepared by chefs but good food. To have a nice cool drink or soda or lemonade. She better come around before it's too late. Blessings for a good day of fun, xoxo,Susie
DeleteThat sure is a nice photo of her and the beautiful lavender or sage. I think if she will just jump into something that she has a little interest in, it will become more and more fun. Even just getting out every day and running a few errands makes life interesting. I have more things to do than I have time and she'll find her way soon. She can take naps when she gets old...tell her I said that! hahaha! Hugs, Diane
ReplyDeleteDiane, My sister use to be very out going, then she has turned a bit reclusive. I have never understood this...she doesn't ever want to be seen working in her yard. Or really walking down the street. I used to say, who cares if the world sees you getting dirty mowing or weed whacking...you are working. It's like Dr. Phil says...if you only knew how little people ever think of you...well? I like to walk and wave at people , I love to be able to work outside in the yard. I have went to town with chalk in my hair to eat lunch...who cares , it's working. Too Funny. Blessings for a great day at your house. xoxo,Susie
Deleteshe sounds a little down, you will bring he back up, sounds like you have some great plans.
ReplyDeleteLaurie, Jeanie likes to have fun, but can be negative at times. I try to to remind her just how blessed we are to be retired and able to get outside, to walk, to enjoy the little things in life. Hope you are having a great day, xoxo,Susie
Deletesome people adjust to retirment because they are busier than when they worked.
ReplyDeleteI think I could stay real busy especially if I had the money to travel around the USA
I garden craft, buy & sell vintage and have lots places to shop around here
I do still work part time to have extra spending money .
I would be very depressed without vintage spending money
That is another thing...her money is very tightly stretched. She doesn't even drive out of town, hasn't in 20 years. I think that can make us feel so old, when we put limits on ourselves. When I thought of retirement, I knew I had a junking hobby and a painting hobby...so I knew that I would be able to do one or the other, depending on my feet. Oh course I watch what I spend, on many things. xoxo,Susie
DeleteI hope you two have a nice visit/walk and I pray she finds something that she really loves to fill her time.
ReplyDeleteWe took a nice walk, came back and sat and talked and then took another short walk around our old neighborhood. It was very enjoyable. I told her we'd go to Goodwill next Wednesday. That is something to look forward too. xoxo,Susie
DeleteSusie,
ReplyDeleteIt's so nice that you're spending time with your sister today. I am having coffee with my brother this week, as we sometimes do. I used to do volunteer work, and it was so rewarding. Maybe she could start a blog like you. Writing is a fun thing to do. I'm starting to write short stories about my childhood to pass along to my kids. Maybe she could do the same. I'm so glad you're spending time with your sister, Susie.
love,
~Sheri
Sheri, My sister will never own a computer...she says it's something she can't afford or is even interested in. I should write things for her 3 grandkids to read later in life. Today as we walked and talked about the passing of one of her neighbors, we had a moment, I reached and hugged her and it was like we were those little sisters again. It felt good to feel that close to Jeanie again. Thank you Sheri, you seem to understand me. Blessings, xoxo,Susie
Deleteoh wow..retirement can do that..
ReplyDeletehummmm work on her Susie(:)
shabby chic chippy furniture LOL
oh yes we used to hate it..I like it now..atleast a few pieces(:) not the whole house..my sis doesn't like it..wish I could spend more time with her too..
hugs,patty
Patty, As we walked today, it really was a good time together. We had a cool soda after walking, visited and then took another short walk around where we grew up. I feel good about our time together. Blessings, xoxo,Susie
DeleteI think she's depressed, not sure of what this next season of life entails. That's where I am too. My doctor says that when you stop doing the things you once loved to do you are depressed. I will pray for her. I have been thinking about doing volunteer work to. We have a great program at the hospital. I will pray for her. Encourage her to get help if this continues.
ReplyDeleteI think she knows it's because she misses being around the nuns and having co-workers to chum with. Plus her son moving to the west. She will just feel better once she gets her physical at the drs. office. xoxo,Susie
DeleteSometimes one little antidepressant makes a whole lot of difference.
ReplyDeleteOh that would never do for her. We have asister who is almost addicted to nerve pills. YIKES. xoxo, Susie
DeleteI have just semi-retired and though I am still working a bit more than I would like at this time, it is an adjustment. For me it's been 43 years of routine that has changed so I do understand, to some extent, what your sister is going through. Just stand by your sister (of course I know you will) and help her adjust to a new life.
ReplyDeleteBoston Boy, As we walked our old neighborhood and talked, we hugged...we know it won't be easy. Jeanie and I were raised the very same...we had to care for all the others...we were never really children and certainly now normal teens. That is a sad story in itself. I am wishing you all the luck in the world on your retirement too. I know with your pal Arlene...it's good to have a comrade. Blessings, xoxo,Susie
DeleteI will pray your Sis will find something to fill her days with joy and fulfillment. It must be an adjustment, for sure.
ReplyDeleteWhat is that beautiful plant?
Thank you Kimberly. I think she needs to find something she enjoys doing. I know she has a health concern and that may be weighing on her. The plant is a big lavender at the city park. :) xoxo,Susie
Deletethat's depression. pure and simple. i take zoloft and if i didn't i could do the same thing. seriously. but i stay so busy now i don't know how i had time to work. it made such a difference in my life. she is sleeping from boredom. i am so sorry.
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Bee, I know she is depressed about her friends the nuns....right before Jeanie retired, the nunnery was closed and all the nuns that were in the home were shipped to other areas. So we can't even go visit with them any more. I think once she sees her dr, in two weeks and finds out some medical issue she has , what it is or can be done. she will be better. She has smoked since she was 20, and my gosh still does.... but she is having some problems with her feet...I know this is a big part of her problem. Blessings to you Bee, xoxo,Susie
Deletehi Susie, just catching up with your posts today. I hope your sister will be sent someone or something to make her happy. She is blessed to have you and I hope she has a good doctor to help her also. I enjoy your posts you know!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Peggy. I have been thinking of you and hoping all is well. Can you even believe it's July already. I am in shock . LOL I am hoping the dr. tells my sister to stop smoking. xoxo,Susie
DeleteIt does sound like she is depressed. Maybe you can talk her into mentioning it to her doctor. She has had slot of loss lately. Sounds like she has low self esteem. I'm glad you are looking after her. Hugs.
ReplyDeleteDebby, She is a bit depressed. But just getting out and about can take care of a lot of depression...can't stay in the house and not do anything. xoxo,Susie
DeleteHave a wonderful time with your sister Susie. I hope you are able to convince her to get out a little more and find something she loves to do.
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Hi June, I am taking my sister junking next week. That will be a fun time. xoxo,Susie
DeleteHi Susie! thanks for stopping by. I love NYC but always glad to get home to small town life.
ReplyDeleteI hope you have a great time with your sister!
I had a good time with my sis. She seemed okay when I left. We did make some plans for next week. xoxo,Susie
DeleteHi Susie, I'm sorry about your sister. Yes, she does need to get a hobby or do something she really enjoys. But glad you'll be able to spend some time with her. Enjoy your selves.
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Gert, I agree, she really needs a hobby. Not all hobbies cost money. Gardening is a really cheap one, if you get a few seeds and plants from others. xoxo,Susie
Deleteha a loose fit I hear you loud and clear..comfort first for me ..hugs,Patty
ReplyDeletePatty, you are so right, comfort first. Blessings, xoxo,Susie
DeleteHi Susie,
ReplyDeleteEnjoy this time with your sister. Retirement is a big adjustment and I hope she will find something fun to fill her time. Enjoy your visit.
Kris
I think she needs to concentrate on her gardening. She seems to plant too many things in the shade.. I think she could move some of her plants. xoxo,Susie
DeleteSend your sister my way and I will keep her busy. I wish I had time in my retirement to take a nap!
ReplyDeleteThat is what she truly needs is to just keep busy. I have never taken a nap, unless I was sick.LOL. xoxo,Susie
DeleteI think you have set your sister on the right track, Susie. With your guidance, she will do okay. It's a process. Good thing she has you in her life. You are such a blessing to me...for sure!! Much love being sent your way, sweet friend.
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xoxo
Debbie, Your kind words touch my heart. I am so thankful for your friendship too. I hope I can get my sister back into her gardening. Blessings to you and your family for a wonderful 4th. xoxo,Susie
DeleteSometimes, they need a little time to adjust to this time in their lives. My grandpa was ready to retire, but not grandma. LOL- she about drove us all nuts for a time. She would have been better off if she would have found a part time job! Hope your sister finds her peace and something to fill her days.
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